The murder of Moi University medical student Ivy Wangechi is proving to be not only a sad and shocking incident but a very emotional one too.
Kenyans have been battling each other online as they try to justice different ways how such deaths can be avoided.
Milele FM presenter Jalang’o found himself in murky waters after taking online to share his views on perhaps how women cans avoid becoming victims.
On Instagram, the popular presenter argued that “free” gifts that men usually shower women with are never really free and women should learn to say no to them if they are not interested in the man.
“I think it is time we became honest with each other. Too many young beautiful girls are dying some of the saddest deaths you cannot wish for someone’s daughter. It is time we discussed this issue.” he said in the post that has now been deleted.
“Rule [number] one: No man gives a woman anything for free. Yes, I said it. Men, can we tell them this? [Girls], even your dad takes you to school so that at old age; and when he cannot provide for himself, he will depend on you.
“Therefore, my sister, before you take money from any man, ask them what they want in return. If you can’t offer what they want, return it. [It is] simple – do not promise what you cannot deliver.
“People work so hard to get money, my sister. Do not exchange lies for a man’s hard-earned money.
“My daughter, if you decide to live [a lifestyle] which is beyond your parents’ provision ability, then be ready to pay the price that the person financing your lifestyle would ask.
“Men are born [as] investors, and when they invest in you, they expect returns. If you cannot give the returns [they are expecting], then just live the lifestyle that your parents can afford.
“My daughter, men have feelings, and when you make promises to them, they would expect those promises to be fulfilled. Before you take anyone’s money and gifts; before he pays your school fees and rent; before you hope onto a plane for [an overseas] trip; before you wear the latest Gucci dress [he bought you]; before you carry that David Jones bag [he gifted you with], ask him what he wants… If you can give [him] what he wants, go ahead [and enjoy their hard-earned money].”
The post didn’t go down well with majority of Kenyans who flocked on his comment section to call him out and trash his views.
Kiss FM radio presenter Adelle Onyango led the camp of those angered by Jalang’o’s statement in calling out the Milele FM morning show host.
“The time has come for men to realise you cannot grab girls, you cannot use girls, girls do not exist for your excitement and pleasure, we are not your play-things.
“Have honest conversations because I guarantee you, your daughters are not the problem! If my son knows what [is] right, it doesn’t matter if she walks by naked; if my sons know what’s right, he will fight for equal pay, equal rights and equal opportunities, if my son knows what is right, my daughter can be out till 10 pm. If my sons know what’s right, we live in a society as equals.
“The fact that you @jalangoo are asking women, to develop defense mechanisms for masculine behavior is just ludicrous! Can you not see that? Why can it not be for once in my lifetime, that men need to do better?
“Why not urge men to meet and band together, call out those with criminal behaviours, hold each other accountable? Instead of always advising women to band together and guide us on how to be safe? If men act better there is no need for this!
“We are forever accommodating your actions, your urges, your needs and trying to survive in a man’s world. If you have ever wondered why we fight so hard for gender equality, this is why: A woman gets murdered and yet it’s the women who need to do better and do more to avoid being murdered… Jalango, your post will make you unpopular, because are you actually serious?”
In the end, Jalang’o deleted the post and apologized. He became the second presenter in just a week to apologize after Homeboyz presenter Didge was thrown under the bus for similar remarks, and saying that Wangechi died because she wasn’t loyal.